Before shocking my attorney with this question, I thought I’d ask here. Can I sue in civil court my cheating husband and/or the ho he is with? He took me for a ton of money while we were “working on the marriage” while the whole time, unbeknownst to me, he was still with her.
Have you just recently learned that your spouse is or has been cheating on you? If you have, you may want to confront them. In all honesty, if you want to go ahead and confront your cheating spouse then go ahead and do so. With that being said, you may want to use caution. There are times when confronting a cheating spouse can turn dangerous.
If you decide to confront your cheating spouse alone, you may want to be extra careful. In fact, you may event want to hold off on the confrontation. Is your spouse known for his or her temper? If so, being alone may not be the best way to accuse your spouse of cheating on you or showing them the proof that you have. This is particularly true if you intend to end your relationship or ask for a divorce. If possible, have a trusted friend, family member, or police officer with you at your home.
As previously stated, you may not want to be alone when confronting a cheating spouse. With that said, there is someone who you do not want to have with you. That it one of your children. Never confront a cheating spouse or even accuse them of cheating in front of your children. It doesn’t matter if your children are newborns or teenagers. Teens know about cheating and you do not want drag them into your mess of a marriage. Newborns will have no clue as to what you are talking about, but the raised voices may be scary and overwhelming.
If your spouse is abusive, either verbally abusive or physically abusive, use your best judgment. When your spouse is abusive, either verbally or physically, you will want to proceed with extreme caution. If you intend to end your marriage due to cheating, it may be best to do so all at once. Have a trusted friend, relative, or the police on standby. If your spouse starts to get violent or upset with you for brining up their cheating, take action immediately. Call for help or get out of your house and do not return until they are gone or you have the police with you. Never put yourself in harms way when confronting a cheating spouse.
Another situation where you want to be cautious when calling out a cheating spouse is if you aren’t ready to walk out the door. Yes, you have every right to be in your home and your spouse may be the one who has to or should leave, but that doesn’t mean the situation will go that way. If your spouse refuses to leave your home, even just for a temporary break, are you prepared to? What about your children, if you are a parent? If your main goal is to end your relationship with your cheating spouse, be sure to have a set plan in place for you and your family.
Finally, reconsider confronting a cheating spouse if you do not have any proof. Have you seen your spouse on a date with another? Have you seen the phone or credit card bills with suspicious or out of the ordinary entries? If you haven’t, it may be best to wait until you have proof. Your spouse may completely deny having an affair. As a worse case scenario, they may not even be cheating on you!
You wake up one day and your marriage is shattered because your husband just dropped the nuclear, infidelity bomb on you! Turns out he’s been having an affair for months. You knew that your relationship wasn’t exactly a magical one, but you never expected him to cheat on you! And, what complicates the painful emotional crisis even further is the fact that he won’t stop his behavior, nor does he want a divorce! Ironically, he claims that he still loves you! Your emotions are running rampant at this point, and you have been thrust into a painful state of confusion! Your thinking; how could he hurt and betray me like that? Why doesn’t he want a divorce? How could he still love me? Is there still hope for our marriage? What should I do?
Well, the first thing you should do is step back from the situation, remove your self, and take a few deep breaths! The worst thing you can do is allow your emotions to drive your actions because when you do it always ends disastrously! Yes, he cheated on you! But, unless you want to pull the plug on your relationship or get a divorce, you must realize that he’s in the driver’s seat right now! There is a way, though, to remove him from the driver’s seat! But before we get to that lets talk about…….
What you shouldn’t do!
One of the very worst things that you can do is beg your husband to stop cheating on you, and continue to tell him that you love him over and over. Remember, he strayed from the marriage for a reason. And, acting from desperation will only prove that he did the right thing!
I know you want your husband to stop cheating on you, but you can’t force him to change! So, trying to change his behavior by treating him to romantic dinner dates, buying him lavish gifts, giving him flowers, offering romantic gestures, or kowtowing to his beckon call will only worsen the crisis! He strayed from the marriage because his emotional needs have gone unmet, and those needs are directly related to your self-esteem and confidence. Therefore, over rowing the boat will only confirm the fact that you are not very confident!
How to Save your Marriage!
Saving your marriage is really all about change isn’t it! If you could only get your partner to spend more time with you, work less often, be more understanding, more romantic, more intimate, and completely monogamous then you would have the perfect marriage! Wouldn’t you? You’ve probably tried to get him to change his behavior, but the harder you try the worse it seems to get! Doesn’t it? The more you plead and prod the more he continues his cheating behavior! Doesn’t he?
Just because your partner told you that it’s not his fault that he cheated, or that he blames the failing marriage on you, doesn’t mean that he can’t change! As a matter of fact, he already did change!
Think about it! In the beginning of your marriage your partner was the loving, caring, and understanding person that you’ve always wanted, but somewhere along the line your partner changed, didn’t he? Unfortunately, it wasn’t in a way that contributed positively to your relationship! Therefore, he did change, and it’s possible for him to change again!
You see, very few women realize that the secret to beating a cheating husband is not force or manipulation but rather attraction!!!!
But, when faced with the emotional betrayal of marriage infidelity, most women act out of desperation and inadvertently make the situation worse!
The key to stopping your cheating husband in his tracks is to get to the bottom of why he strayed in the first place. Once you uncover the unmet emotional needs that are at the root of his behavior, you can swiftly remove him from the driver’s seat! But, by approaching your marriage infidelity from the correct perspective you will accomplish much more than that. You can end his infidelity without even asking him to do so, and you can get him to fall hopelessly in love with you all over again!
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Best wishes,
David Roppo
The Relationship Rehab Coach
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I think my hubby is cheating with someone he works with. I just have that gut feeling. I can’t go where he works because he works at a hospital at night and they lock all the doors. So what are some ways to catch him? suggestions please
